Help i feel so stupid!!?

The culmination of any loving relationship between a man and a woman is having children,but it is something that has to be mutually agreed or it can lead to considerable heartache.It's obvious from what you have said that your partner is not ready to commit to that sort of relationship.He is, of course still hurting from the previous relationship and is desperately afraid that history will repeat itself.Try reminding him that your little boy is already four years old and it would be nice for him to have a little brother or sister to play with. As only child usually means lonely child.